The Awakened Goddess

Where is The G-Spot? Does it Really Exist?

Q: I Keep Hearing About the G-Spot. Does it Really Exist?

~G-Spot or Not in Vancouver, WA

A: Yes it does! If you have never found yours, it’s time to go hunting. We have some fantastic products for your excursion and I will tell you about those in a minute.

First, let me tell you where it is. It is approximately one-and-a half to two inches inside the vaginal wall on the abdominal side. It can be difficult to find if you are not already at least somewhat aroused. This is where the Liquid V can work wonders. You or your partner can apply it to the front vaginal wall and wait for the L-Arginine to bring the blood in. The tissue will fill with blood and become more sensitive and stimulated to touch. Once the tissue starts puffing you will be able to feel a difference in the texture, somewhat ridged or rough. Also, as it’s stimulated it may give you the sensation of having to go pee.

The G-Spot typically loves slow, deep pressure. Imagine if you were calling your lover over with your index finger, saying come here naughty boy/girl. The glass dildos are amazing to give that same type of firm pressure to your magical spot.

It is also sometimes helpful to add clitoral stimulation with a bullet, while still focusing on the different sensations as the glass dildo glides along the G-Spot. A clear fluid may be ejaculated at the moment of orgasm. It is a liquid that is chemically similar to male ejaculate but contains no sperm. Eureka! You may have just struck gold!

xoxo

Angela, The Goddess Next Door

What Are Ben Wa Balls & Can They Get Lost?

Q: Can Ben Wa Balls Get Lost?

~Balls-B-Gone in Stuart, FL

A: First off let me start by briefly explaining why Ben Wa balls are so fabulous. Ben Wa balls are inserted vaginally to help ladies tone their pelvic floor muscles through Kegel exercises. There are many ways to do these exercises, but basically it is a tightening and releasing of the pubococcygeus (PC) muscles.

The strength of a woman’s PC muscles helps determine the strength of her orgasm. If the PC muscles have lost their tone through childbirth or surgery, a woman may experience decreased sensitivity. Research has shown that a woman with strong, toned muscles typically has stronger orgasms, has an easier time achieving an orgasm through intercourse, and is more likely to achieve multiple orgasms.

The weighted balls are great, because just like going to the gym, it is important to do weight-bearing exercises to build and strengthen muscle. Another great benefit is that you can stimulate the G-spot and get the blood flowing in the vaginal walls, making it an enjoyable, possibly explosive experience.

Back to the question about Ben Wa balls getting lost: No. The vaginal canal leads right up to the cervix. The balls will not go past the cervix, making it difficult to lose them, unless one slipped out. If that’s the case, you have a little more work to do!

xoxo

Angela, The Goddess Next Door

Question: Am I Avoiding Something?

Here’s a question I recently received from a Goddess Girlfriend

Why do I feel like I need to go shopping and buy new things constantly? And why do I feel like I’m avoiding something?

Spending money is a social norm that provides pleasure and instant gratification. Shopping can and has become a distraction from experiencing feelings for many.

First, consider if there is something in your life that you are avoiding?

A good majority of people avoid feeling their feelings. Common feelings that people try to avoid are anxiety, fear and feeling vulnerable.

Do any of these resonate for you?

Are you avoiding talking with someone that you need to be communicating with?

Is there something in your life you need to be letting go of, such as an old relationship or job?

Are you currently dating or in a deepening relationship?

This avoidance can also stem from fear of intimacy or opening yourself up, allowing someone into your emotional space.

There are other ways people avoid feeling something uncomfortable. Some of those include:

  • Using excessive alcohol or drugs
  • Emotional eating (usually sugary or salty high fat and/or carb foods)
  • Keeping themselves busy
  • Watching a lot of television
  • Doing anything in excess

When we participate in one of these activities we distract ourself from feeling our feelings.

The short term affect of feeling relief may feel good.

The long term affect is that the feeling or issue we avoid gets bigger. We may not be aware of it in the moment, but something will trigger an emotional response in the future, causing us to over react to the situation. Most of us have experience with this.

Back to the shopping – you can probably start to see how it could easily be something that pushes those uncomfortable feelings away. Since you said you were shopping quite a bit, this leads me to believe that something uncomfortable for you is coming up.

By regularly trying to feel good through an external source, a negative cycle is created. Initially what you purchase may give you a positive feeling, however if this has become a pattern for you, the item becomes another possession, rather than provide a sustained positive result.

So how do you deal with the feelings you’re avoiding?

Journaling is a very beneficial tool to use to give your thoughts and feelings acknowledgment.  If you don’t acknowledge what’s coming up it will start eating at you.  It’s like a shadow.  It can appear larger then it really is until you look at it.  It takes a tremendous amount of energy to avoid something then to face it.  I’m not saying this is always easy, it’s just very draining.  If you have a trustworthy and objective Goddess Girlfriend try talking it over with them.  However, if you find this process challenging I can help support you through the process.

xoxo

Angela, The Goddess Next Door