We’ve all been there. You’re just not feeling it anymore. You thought you were dating someone you really connected with only to find she/he wasn’t what you expected, or the chemistry just wilted away.

It sucks…no matter how you cut it. It sucks to have the dreaded break up conversation but when it’s time, it needs to be done. (If you’re not sure if it should be over, read my earlier post When it’s Time, it’s Time.)

I can speak from years of experience both personally and from coaching clients, you’ll end up with those ex’s that won’t go away because you’re not being clear enough during your break up conversation…yes, there are a few crazies out there that won’t get it no matter what you say or do – You know who I’m talking about. Those ex’s that keep trying to talk to you and make up reasons to see you. They’re like gum on your shoe. You think it’s gone until you hear a crackly noise and you feel your shoe sticking to the floor. You say to yourself, I thought I got rid of that…Argh.

If the relationship is over for you don’t just stop talking to them and try to fade away. That’s the worst thing you can do. Trust me, it’ll just make them want to pursue you even more and you’ll end up with a stalker on your hands. When you have the talk be respectable, honest and most importantly be very, very clear. Even if you think you’re clear, make sure you don’t leave any question in their mind that you won’t be back.

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Regardless, it’s hard. No one likes it. The sooner you talk to them the sooner you each can move on. Don’t waste anymore of your time or theirs.

Here’s to never having to have the break up conversation ever again, and all the best if you ever do!

Angela Wilkinson, The Goddess Next Door