Has Your Inner Male Taken Over?

Over the years in my coaching practice I have noticed a trend that more and more women are leading with their masculine side – the driving side that pushes, analyzes and tries to maintain control.

I hear it all the time from women that they are feeling pushed to their limits. The demands we face every day can feel overwhelming, overloading our to-do lists, attending time management workshops, scheduling “quality time” with the people we love, driving ourselves faster and harder trying to do it all.

Ultimately trying to control things that are uncontrollable will leave you feeling overwhelmed, resentful, and depressed.

Have you experienced any of the following?

 

  1. Pushing, trying to make things happen?
  2. Struggling and always taking on more?
  3. Never having the time to take care of and pamper yourself?
  4. Feeling like there isn’t enough time to do everything you need to do and always feeling pressed for time?
  5. Taking work home with you?
  6. Always having one project come up after the next, everything seeming to be ‘URGENT’?
  7. Analyzing situations until your brain feels like it’s spinning and you’re physically exhausted?
  8. Has your sex drive diminished, never feeling ‘in-the-mood’?

If so, your masculine side has taken over!

We are to be leading with our feminine side, we are women after all. That receptive, allowing, heart centered, open and intuitive side of ourselves.

Feeling like you always have to do more and constantly be busy is stressful, but we continue to do it because it gives us the feeling of control and safety. Sounds crazy I know, but we often continue with something that is uncomfortable to avoid the fear of the unknown and the discomfort that comes with it.

The practice of trusting your feminine side and slowing down usually brings up feelings of anxiety and sometimes panic. It may feel very foreign and unproductive and it certainly can be challenging to go through it alone.

Without the tools to deal with your feelings correctly, you will end up stuffing them back down and strengthening them in the process.

Imagine a child who throws a temper tantrum to get something they want. If they have gotten their way in the past, they learn very quickly to keep increasing their outburst until you react.

The same thing happens with your feelings. They become stronger and stronger each time you push them away. That’s why sometimes you find yourself reacting way out of proportion to something that upsets you.

Why would you ever want to go through all that drama?

By taking back control over your life you will experience:

  • Becoming more calm, more grounded and more at peace.
  • Becoming less reactive to external situations and have the ability to respond in more appropriate ways.
  • Recognizing and responding to your feelings rather then unconsciously stuffing them with busy distraction, emotional eating or spending money on things that won’t fulfill you.
  • Feeling more confident and joyful.
  • Feeling less-stressed, overwhelmed and anxious.
  • The ability to connect with your deeper purpose and what is truly important to you.
  • Attracting new, healthy relationships, improving your family relationships, and deeper, supportive friendships.

Have you allowed your masculine side to take over?

Imagine what it would be like if you were more connected with your intuition allowing you to be more successful in business and relationships, while feeling more relaxed and having more fun. If this is something you would like more of in your life, schedule a coaching consultation and learn how having a Transformational Life Coach on your side can help!

xoxo

Angela, The Goddess Next Door

Inspiring Resources for a New Point of View

In an earlier post – 8 Ways to Connect With Your Inner Guidance, one of the ways I talked about was surrounding yourself with inspiring resources.

By introducing fresh and inspiring material into your awareness you develop new, deeper connections within yourself. With this new awareness you begin viewing your life and experiences differently. Have you noticed this before?

Have you ever picked up a book you previously weren’t interested in and found it to be perfect for what you were going through? Sometimes we aren’t ready for new information. Timing is key. Notice what and when you are drawn to new information to find out what you may need to be paying more attention to. The more you practice this, the more you will strengthen your intuitive sense.

If you need a new perspective around a matter, pick up something inspiring. I’d like to share with you some of my favorite books I have on my bookshelf.

Inspired Living
Ask and It Is Given- Esther & Jerry Hicks
Creative Visualization- Shakti Gawain
The Four Agreements- Don Miguel Ruiz
Natural-Born Intuition- Lauren Thibodeau, Ph.D.
The Power of Now- Eckhart Tolle

Relationship Books
Creating a Spiritual Relationship – Paul Ferrini
Resurrecting Sex- David Schnarch, Ph.D.
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff in Love- Richard Carlson, Ph.D.

Health
You Can Heal Your Life- Louise Hay
A Course in Weight Loss- Marianne Williamson
Naturally Thin- Bethenny Frankel

Business Books
Think and Grow Rich- Napoleon Hill
E-Myth Mastery- Michael Gerber

If you know other inspirational books, please share in the comment section below. You never know when you’ll impact the life of someone else in a positive way!

Enjoy!

xoxo

Angela Wilkinson

Becoming Your Own Ideal Partner

In a previous video I had you create your ideal partner list – detailing out anything and everything you desire in your partner and love relationship. Did you do it? If not, it’s important to complete that exercise before you move on to today’s video.

Let’s take a deeper look at your list. Often when we make a declaration of what we want, immediately the negative ego rears its ugly head and tries to convince you that you can’t have what you want. Maybe it wants you to believe that you’re not good enough or it nags you with reasons why you shouldn’t have what you want or that you don’t deserve it.

These are limiting beliefs that live in our subconscious and out of our awareness. They drive our thoughts, feelings and behaviors. When we are unaware of these old beliefs they sabotage what we set out to have in life – love, happiness, and money. They show themselves when we start moving out of our comfort zone and into new territory. Until a person or situation activates those limiting beliefs we are often unaware they’re there as well as how they stop us from achieving our goals.

My belief is that you should have everything you desire in your ideal partner. That being said, we attract people similar to ourselves into our lives. Remember from day 3 when I talked about your Attraction Factor and how like attracts like? You can attract someone into your life within a range of where you are and depending upon where you are right now, that may not be your ideal partner. This means if you yourself aren’t most of the qualities on your list the most important action you can take to attract a mate is to focus on becoming each of those qualities.

After looking back over your list you may decide right now is not the time to focus on finding your ideal partner. Instead you may want to focus your time and energy on becoming the best version of you possible. And by the way here’s a little secret…often when you focus on the inner work, you attract in fun and interesting people along the way.

If you’d like help in creating or becoming your ideal partner list, I would love to help you. Check out the Love SPARK program and let’s get you on the fast track to finding and keeping fulfilling love. Before you go, I’d love your comments on today’s video. Have you noticed patterns in your love life? Are you able to recognize your negative ego and your limiting beliefs? I look forward to hearing about your experience with this.

Angela Wilkinson, Your Love Coach

Are His Actions Speaking Louder Than His Words?

You’ve likely experienced this before. You’ve dated a guy who you really like. He seems to really be into you too. He says he’ll call and he doesn’t…Or you’ve been dating a man for a while and you talk about moving in together yet he doesn’t take steps to make that a reality.

Sometimes we want something so badly we believe everything we’re told without looking at what they are doing. Are they saying one thing and doing another? Their actions show you their level of commitment to what they are saying. Are they telling you what you want to hear to maintain a relationship with you? Or do their actions show you they mean what they say? Do they follow through and are they reliable? Or do they consistently say they are going to do something and it never happens?

Next time, don’t believe something just because you really want it to be true, watch for the follow through.

Angela Wilkinson

http://thegoddessnextdoor.com

It Takes Two to Tango

Are you getting everything you need from your relationship?

It’s not that it’s our partners responsibility to fill our every need, that would be unrealistic and would put a lot of pressure on him. That being said, there are things your partner does for you and you do for them and in the beginning you want to do everything for them. It seems so effortless and if it’s not, you don’t mind because you are full of the love drug.

As time goes on, you start noticing your partner isn’t doing all the things he once did.

You find him sitting on the couch watching the game instead of happily helping you with the dishes.

One thing leads to another and neither of you feel inspired to do those things anymore. Often one will blame the other and around it goes.

This video is about taking responsibility for your part. How can you inspire your partner to do those things you miss him doing?

Angela Wilkinson

http://thegoddessnextdoor.com

PS – What have you tried doing to inspire your partner into action? Leave a comment below and let us know!